October 28, 2016
Love Isn’t Enough: Eros, Ludus, Philia, Storge, Pragma, Mania
So, my personal life has been poppin lately – hence the lack of posts. We back on though and this week we’ll be discussing agape. Agape is an unselfish love of all mankind that combines Eros + Storge. In this type of love, individuals are willing to sacrifice anything for their loved one(s). Agape is based on an unbreakable commitment and an unconditional, altruistic love.
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In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness month I want to continue to share my story with the world. 🌎 Being completely transparent, 4 years ago I was in an abusive relationship with a man that most women would say was “the man of my dreams.” (It was really a nightmare.) I worked in an unhealthy work environment and I was transitioning from the Air Force which was a major life change.
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October 7, 2016
Love Isn’t Enough: Eros, Ludus, Philia, Storge, Pragma
We’ve talked a lot about love in ways that were all very healthy, descriptive, fun, and positive. However, this is not always the case. Again, love is challenging. It’s confusing. It can also be dark and dangerous. This week we’re going to discuss mania.
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September 30, 2016
Love Isn’t Enough: Eros, Ludus, Philia, Storge
We’ve been writing about love for quite some time now. In many ways, being diligent and consistent has really helped me to reevaluate a lot of what I thought I knew about love and its many different expressions.
This week, we’ll be discussing pragma or mature, practical love. Pragma is about making compromises to help relationships work over time, as well as showing patience and tolerance. It’s the kind of love that’s practical, mutually-beneficial, and endures through sickness and in health over the long-haul. As a special surprise, I’m going to introduce our first guest contributor, M. Divine.
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September 21, 2016
Love Isn’t Enough: Eros, Ludus, Philia
Here’s a quick recap of everything we’ve talked about thus far in the last few weeks. Love confuses a lot of people because we all mean so many different things when we use the word love. Eros is all about romantic, sexual desire or lust. Ludus is the all about the fun and excitement we feel when dating. Philia is brotherly love that we have for friends and acquaintances. This week we’re going to talk about storge.
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Love Isn’t Enough: Eros, Ludus
So far we’ve talked about both romantic and playful love. Now, we’re going to talk about philia or brotherly love. Philia is the deep friendship or comradely bond that develops between coworkers, teammates, or soldiers in an army because of the shared experience that everyone has. It is the love we feel for people we strive with to achieve a shared goal – like fighting side by side on a battlefield against a common enemy. Philia is about showing loyalty, sacrificing, and sharing your emotions.
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September 7, 2016
Love Isn’t Enough: Eros
So, last week we talked about passionate, romantic love. This week we’re going to talk about ludus, but I have a slight confession to make. I kind of cheated. Ludus is actually Latin and not Greek, but whatever. It means “play, game, sport, training” and refers to the affection between children or young lovers.
While ludus is about passion, it more so encapsulates the idea of having fun with each other doing different activities. It encompasses all the teasing and flirting that goes on in the early stages of a dating relationship. It happens when you both are still testing out what it might be like to be together, falling in love and what not, but that’s where it all ends. You see, in ludus, there is no commitment or responsibility involved.
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August 31, 2016
Love Isn’t Enough
As I mentioned before, the ancient Greeks were very sophisticated in their understanding of the many different expressions of love. The first type that we’re going to talk about is eros. Eros was the Greek god of fertility and, in terms of love, constitutes a passionate, intense, and erotic or lustful desire for someone. In addition to its strong sexual and emotional components, eros is also marked by compassion, kindness, and consideration, as well as the desire to be emotionally and physically close to your romantic partner. It is this powerful sexual magnetism that draws two people together in the beginning stages of a new relationship sometimes described as the honeymoon phase.
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August 23, 2016
“Sanskrit has 96 words for love; ancient Persian has 80, Greek three, and English only one. This is indicative of the poverty of awareness or emphasis that we give to that tremendously important realm of feeling.” – Robert Johnson, “The Fisher King and the Handless Maiden”
Love isn’t enough. You might disagree with me and believe that love conquers all or whatever, and that’s your prerogative. At the end of the day, you have to do what makes the most sense for you, your worldview, lifestyle, and how they all impact the relationships that you think are important. I feel differently about it though. I have been in love. I believe in love. I have learned many things about love. I don’t pretend to be some expert so these are all just my opinions.
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